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It's just a phase / Growing up


Magda-Eternium 
July 24, 2016



How many times have you heard the phrase ''It's just a phase, you'll grow out of it'' ? Probably more than once if you are alternative.
The truth is that many people do really ''grow up'' and leave behind their darkliness but some of us keep it in our outer appearance or just in our hearths for the rest of our lives.

When do you know it's not just a phase?

Simple: when it has always been there.
I know from my experience that I have been drawn to the dark side of things ever since I was a kid, I loved old horror movies, dark literature and different music. It was not planned and never in my life said something like '' Oh, hey, I think I want to be goth now'' because if you are true to yourself and like the things that you like without doing it so just because other people are doing it, well, that's all that matters.
If you always liked something chances are that you are always going to like it. And this doesn't mean you won't experiment with different styles and music, not at all, but you will generally go back to similar interests.
Just be yourself, this might be a cliche but it's true.

Growing up.

Once we are true to ourselves and know what we like and who we are, growing old is not an issue. There are many alternative people over 30 and up to their 80s. You might evolve, change a bit or just... adjust to your current life but that's it. You don't have to turn ''normal'' just because you have a certain age.
And even if you decide to go normal and grow up, that's absolutely nothing wrong with that, just do it because you feel so not because of the pressure from society.
Maybe you think I'm too young to give my view on this but I'm no teenager, I'm 27 and I have goth and metal friends over 40. I also know people with families and all that and they still enjoy pretty much the same things.
From my experience I just get crazier every year and there's absolutely no sign of ''growing up''. Life is too short to wear boring clothes hahaha.
Also I'm trying to get rid of this idea of negativity regarding ageing. I'm so sick and tired of the media saying that only young people are beautiful, only young people can be models and all that crap but that's for a different blog post
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Demons ,
I could not agree more completely! That is exactly what I always say :D You should grow into it or out of it naturally... if you do it as a conscious choice it's wrong either way
7 years ago
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Wroom ,
It is funny how most people see growing up as clipping off wings and limiting of imagination. We never grow up, we keep growing our entire lives, it is not a process with a start and a finish. That kind of thinking is cultural insanity that prevents souls from growing and love from flowing....
7 years ago
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OtherMother ,
It is just a phase... Most dangerous sentence.... It was sad by everyone around me and put off my transition for years.... Easier to say that than to actually listen! :(
7 years ago
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Immortalbae ,
Still not at the age people will start bugging me to change, but I'm ready to take in all the "repel the family and work like a goth" wisdom :D
7 years ago
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FuriosAna ,
Well put and I agree with every word!
7 years ago
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Duches ,
Once you hear the call of darkness, you never go back :D
7 years ago
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Feline ,
That photo of young you is sooooo cute! I agree, we should evolve as we get older and wiser, but never hide or scrap what we are!
7 years ago
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Jazzy ,
I went to an Iron Maiden gig with my mum and grandmum and had a blast :D Nuf said :D Style should evolve with time, just to adjust to our changing bodies and lifestyles. Also we tend not to care for labels the older we get, we don't feel the need to show everyone how "true" we are, because we know who we are. But we shouldn't change who we are just because "it is time to grow up", we should grow up accepting all the sides of our personality and by finding a place within us for all that we are :D
7 years ago
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